Sunday, April 29, 2012

Top 5 Signs you are Heading to Africa

  1. Your air conditioning stops working
  2. One of your cars breaks down
  3. Your washing machine stops working
  4. One of your toilets stops working
  5. Your refrigerator stops working
But most of all... you just start laughing when the next thing breaks knowing the cause :)

Monday, April 23, 2012

11 days

The kind of things you do when you are less than two weeks from meeting your baby boy for the first time:

  • go to your bank to withdraw funds for visa, embassy and travel cash requesting it in fifty dollar increments - no earlier than 2007 - no rips or marks, when you find that your bank shoots money automatically from the drawer and they can't do that, upon which you go to publix, sams club, another bank, another grocery store, and in the end only have about half of what you need in the proper format
  • call your insurance company to get prescription override so we can get more than one month at a time, and have insurance company tell you that you have to wait til closer to the trip so that you can have more on your plate days before leaving the country
  • pack, repack, unpack, pack, repack, weight luggage, pack... laundry...
  • stuff formal clothing into a bag all folded up and pray it won't look silly in court
  • bathe dogs so they are clean for their individual sitters
  • visit old boss to find out how bad his cancer is, to find him pale and shaky too scared to call the doctor
  • get final form notarized
  • make homemade candied ginger

not that i know... just saying...

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Thursday, April 12, 2012

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Matthew 1:10,11

Hezekiah the father of Manasseh,
Manasseh the father of Amon,
Amon the father of Josiah,
and Josiah the father of Jeconiah and his brothers at the time of the exile to Babylon.

Gotcha Video of the Day :: Rissa

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Bonding with a Child You've Never Met

Whether you have bonded with a child in your pregnant belly, with a child in your arms, or with a child overseas it takes many forms. Even in those different types of mommy bonding experiences can vary as widely as the types. I have seen women bond faster with adopted children than with biological children. I have seen women take seconds to bond and others take years. I have talked with friends about what the possible reasons are for one or another, and how to more quickly successfully bond by "controlling" circumstances. But the truth is that I think we bond to our children in a similar way that we come to know the Lord. Some quick. Some slow. Some in some ways, some in others. Some require knowledge some just require that love. I don't think its something that we can control, or that we can foresee. Just something that happens...



Anyhow, for over 2 years I have wondered how that connection develops. Whether it will be love from the first photo, or after we meet, or after he comes home, or after a year? Well I can say that I now know it is different for everyone. But I can tell you how it has worked for me up to this point.

1) I have felt bonded to our son for years. Even when we were waiting in the wrong country. Even when we held a newborn in our arms. I felt bonded to the child that was to be. It turns out that the very month we started our venture was the month he was likely born in. It turns out that the very week that we were approved and officially waiting (for another country mind you), he was brought to the orphanage he has lived in since. He has been waiting for us exactly as long as we have been waiting for him. And I know that those prayers we prayed over all that time were specifically referencing this little treasure of our hearts. I vividly can hear the prayers we have sent up to the Lord over the years "Lord provide him clean water. Lord provide him food today. Lord love on his bio family. Lord protect him today. Lord tell him we love him today. Lord kiss him for me today. Lord fill his belly and his heart today. Lord protect his body from illness. Lord protect his heart from pain. Lord fill his spirit with you..." So in a way, we have been bonded since long before we saw his photo and the familiarity of him makes me realize that God has spent these years preparing us for this treasure.

2) Upon hearing his name, and his story my heart immediately connected to him. Though not in my belly, though not connected to my physiology, that boy has been connected to my heart from the moment we knew of him. Though, when he is so far away and being a living breathing child that you have never met... its a weird connection. I think of him every day. I pray for him every day. I have mourned his losses. I have yearned to hold him. But in a weird different way. There is a disconnected feeling from not hearing his voice, never seeing him move, only knowing him from frozen moments caught by a camera. But there is this connected feeling as if I already know him and he has always been with us. Its not really explainable by words, but I wanted to put it to words so I can remember later what this felt like the best I can. I also know this isn't the way everyone feels at this point.

Never have I ever wanted so badly to get on a plane. There are moments that are just excruciating when I have to settle my heart and remember that we are waiting on God's timing. But how do we just sit here when our child is there? Knowing it just takes a plane to cover the distance between us and the boy we love makes it so hard to not just go. It just feels weird to sit and wait instead of racing over there, scooping him up, and telling him that he is loved and will never be an orphan again. But for now. we wait :)

So... bonding with a child you've never met. Its intense. and weird. and different for everyone.

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Thursday, April 5, 2012

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A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world. 4/4




Wednesday, April 4, 2012

A Couple Years Ago...


... something happened. I don't know what happened. When it happened. I don't know how it happened. But it happened. And while the beginning of the story most certainly carries heartbreak and pain for the one I love, God will make beauty out of the pain. HE turns all things new. I am confident in this.

I don't know if you know the importance of this celebration, or if it will be brought to your attention. But, I want you to know that for the rest of my days that I walk this earth - this day will be a happy day and a day of celebration and laughter and fun and surprises and definitely... definitely... lots of cuddles... as long as you will let me.

My heart is broken that you are spending another april fourth without your family but we will be there soon little one. You are the treasure of our hearts and we will pray for you and long to gather you into our arms until the moment we meet. Until then we entrust you to the LORD and the beautiful people around you, and we will continue to pray over your body and mind and soul every single night.

Feliz Cumpleanos my precious treasure. I will see you soon.

A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world. 4/4

How Can You Serve The Orphans Where You Are?

In case you are not called to adopt or you know people who say "I see the need but its just not something I am able to help with".... send them to Orphan Wares :)

  1. People who like to make crafts make them and (donate) send them to our warehouse  http://www.orphanwares.com/donate-crafts
  2. We put them on our website www.orphanwares.com
  3. People who like to buy crafts purchase items they like on www.orphanwares.com
  4. 100% of the sales (minus shipping cost which goes to pay for shipping costs) goes to food for orphans http://aplacecalledsimplicity.blogspot.com/2012/04/orphanwarescom.html
  5. 100% of any donations goes to food for orphans http://internationalvoiceoftheorphan.blogspot.com/2012/03/this-that.html
  6. Crafters get to feed orphans with their crafts & Shoppers get to feed orphans with their dollars



"As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another..." 1 Peter 4:10

Monday, April 2, 2012

"It is amazing how he is growing every day and how friendly he is..."


This little precious treasure is growing without me. Who told him he could do that? Lord - drop these mountains into the sea and lead us by the hand across the ocean. Let us gather him into our arms where he will stay forever. Let him not grow another inch until he is with us so that we can cheer in excitement at each milestone and he will know who his biggest fans are. Lord please. Make it quick.