Wednesday, November 30, 2011

What to say...

I've been bloglazy - blazy? heh. lately...

Adoption Front -
- We graduated our mapp class. Though we are told they will be super busy and probably wont start homestudies until January or February. Just holding Tight.
- WH Eth referrals have drastically slowed down as of late. 1 for Nov, 2/3 for the months preceeding. Just holding Tight.
- Another possibility that we aren't holding our breath for. Just holding Tight.

Thanksgiving -
We traveled north to visit relatives of mr awesome. had a great time being touristy, taking photos, eating yummies. Lots of time in the car.

My bestie is in Uganda right now. keep her in your prayers as her process is taking lots of fun and not so fun twists and turns. praying her and her hubby, son, and new son get home super duper soon.

Mr Awesome is still ridiculously adorable. Time to go home and cuddle him right now in fact.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

As if I didnt already love her enough :P... Friday Night Lights star Connie Britton adopts a baby boy from Ethiopia...

Friday Night Light's star Connie Britton is the latest actress to adopt a child.

The 44-year-old has revealed to People magazine that after a three month process she has adopted a nine-month-old Ethiopian boy.

She joins the likes of Sex And The City star Kristin Davis, who adopted a little girl a few months ago.

Connie said she traveled to  African to collect her baby, and brought him home last week.

She has named the little boy Yoby, a nickname of Eyob, which is his given name.

Read more:

State Annual Report on Adoption Statistics

Some good stuff here - take a look

Texas - 482 incoming adoptions
Florida - 323 incoming adoptions
North Dakota - 10 incoming adoptions
Nevada - 14 incoming adoptions
Nebraska - 53 incoming adoptions
New Mexico - 29 incoming adoptions

I am thinking we need to take a trip to the N states and get them on board ;)


Wednesday, November 9, 2011

What does Jesus look like?

This past weekend I had some time to sit and read a book. I selected to read Heaven is for Real: A Little Boy's Astounding Story of His Trip to Heaven and Back, Deluxe Edition
that I had downloaded on my kindle and not gotten around to reading yet. It is a pretty amazing story in line with 90 Minutes in Heaven: A True Story of Death and Lifewhich was a great book as well, very similar, but if I had to choose one I would select Heaven is for Real.

According to the book the little boy (3 at the time), Colton, during an emergency surgery, goes to heaven and chills with Jesus for a while. One of the things the family would make into a game afterwards was when they would see a painting of Jesus they would ask Colton what he thought. Colton would always frown and say "no its not right" and then would sometimes explain what parts were wrong. When Colton first told his dad about Jesus there were certain things that were clear and stood out. The first was what Colton called "markers", which were red marks located in the places the nails were driven. The second thing Colton mentioned over and over was how pretty Jesus' eyes were. Other things the boy had said were not things he would have known unless he had read some pretty in depth parts of the bible. Everything lined up with scriptures (the ultimate testing ground - yes).

When the father, Todd, heard about a little girl who was having dreams where she would go to heaven and talk to Jesus. The little girl painted a picture of Jesus that she was seeing. Todd showed it to Colton and for the first time Colton said it looked like Jesus. I think what actually was said was Todd asked Colton what was wrong with this one and Colton said "Nothing" with a big grin on his face. Either way it was clear that what this girl had seen seemed to line up with what Colton saw when he went to heaven.

So, needless to say after reading this I was dying to see the painting this girl had drawn. So I googled it and found it this morning. And figured I would share it with you. As most people I am always skeptical about these things, and without knowing the people personally it is hard to trust in their experiences. However, whether this little boy or this little girl went to heaven or not it is pretty amazing to see what this little one drew.

What I learned last night...

Last night at MAPP we focused on the transition from foster home to adoption home. Here are some of the things we learned, mostly common sense but worth repeating...

  • Disruptions & Dissolutions

    • A disruption is when before the adoption is completed it is terminated

    • A dissolution is after an adoption is completed it is reversed (though the teacher always reminds us that there is a no return policy :) )

    • It is very very important during the 90 days the child is with you that you determine as soon as possible if there is a problem. It is much harder the further you go, and it only gets worse if its not working and you don't seek help.

    • The stages of dissolution are:

      • negative feelings, the negatives seeming to outweigh the positives

      • blaming the child for everything

      • talking to people outside the family and negative feelings amplifying

      • giving ultimatums to the child

      • termination

    • It is very important to call someone at stage 1 to either work things out or stop the adoption before it goes further, otherwise it is harmful to everyone involved

  • Transitioning

    • The foster parent is key to the ease of the transition

    • If the foster parent properly prepares the child for the adoptive family the child will transition easier and will have less emotional trauma and self esteem issues

    • The child trusts the foster parent so more than the words the fp says but the way they say it will determine the child's approach to their adoptive parent

    • Most FPs are amazing and show the child pictures of the new family, tell them what to expect, encourage child to call adoptive parents mommy and daddy, talk about them excitedly, take part in transitioning events and celebrations, etc.

    • Some FPs struggle at the loss of the child who may have been with them for years, and so convey to the child that this is not a positive thing, which causes the transition for the child to be one more horrendous event in their life.

    • If possible, continuing communication and relationships with the FPs could be key to helping the child with their self-esteem and with the transition.

    • It is vital for the adoptive parent to move at the pace of the child with the transition, to make sure they are not pushing too fast in the relationship and to match the child for their comfort and ease of transition.

    • It is vital for them to feel special and loved and wanted, because they are once again being moved and often wonder if its something they did wrong.

Lots of other fun stuff.. LOL... but this was the gist of it. :) Happy Wednesday!

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Weekend Wrapup

This weekend we took a trip down south. We had a meeting on Sunday afternoon in Pompano Beach so we decided to make a weekend out of it. We reserved a room at an awesome beach resort at a ridiculously inexpensive price, popped the puppies in the car, and hit the road.

I think one of the highlights was when mr awesome woke me up for a sunrise. Being on the west coast we get to see the sunsets on the ocean but not the sunrises. So it was special.

Did I spend the weekend working? Absolutely. Did I sit out by the pool next to the beach on my laptop and let the ocean breeze surround my table? Absolutely. I even had a skype conference call with one of my clients out on the beach. #LOVERESORTWIFI

However, much to my surprise I actually got to spend a lot of time relaxing. We sat on the beach in our recently purchased drive-in-movie-beach-chairs and read and soaked the salt water, and splashed, and.... relaxed. #learningtositstill

Don't get me wrong... I definitely got us walking, as we explored the fishing pier and the local beaches. But I didn't know I could sit that long without exerting energy.

Sunday morning I sat out on the beach and started and completed a book (Heaven is for Real: A Little Boy's Astounding Story of His Trip to Heaven and Back, Deluxe Edition
) in its entirety all before our meeting. Great book - I highly recommend you reading it.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Adoptee, Birthmom, blogger - highly recommended read

...On September 27, 2002, it was finally time for him to go home with his new family. I sat in the hospital chapel holding him, rocking him, and kissing him through my tears. My heart was so raw ~ I started to pray holes in the roof of that building. 'Father, if thou wilt take this pain from me, I can't bear this any longer. Please take this burden from me.' His peace came to me, it engulfed me, and I was surrounded by His love.
What an overwhelming, spiritual, emotional, painful, and uplifting experience. When his parents walked into the hospital chapel, I felt a burning in my chest, the spirit was so strong! His mother was crying harder than I was, and the happiness that glowed from her was amazing! Looking at her, I knew I was doing the right thing. I knew they were to be his parents, and it was all worth it. This meeting was short and sweet. I did not try to stop the tears as they ran down my face. With a strength and confidence I never knew I had, I told them I had something for them, and brought forth my son and placed him into his mother’s arms. He was theirs, and the looks on their faces further confirmed to me of their love - they loved both of us. And as I left the room, God held my hand....

read the rest of the story here!